So we adjusted the tradition to meet our hopes for our future life together. What if we could eat something together on our first anniversary that symbolized the fruits of our attempts to take two separate people - with striking differences and backgrounds - and mesh them into one family united by common values and goals? And what better representation of the fruits of our labors than actual fruit? So originated our central theme of trees and their fruit.
I designed our wedding announcements using ink, and drew two separate trees with their branches growing together (in a celtic knot design - a nod to my irish heritage, and reference to the eternal nature of the family we would form) and laden with fruit.
It's funny how all this symbolism was so important to us, and yet we now only occasionally remember the trees maturing in my parents' backyard. But when we go to visit and see them, it is a poignant reminder of what we hope to accomplish. And our daughters are getting old enough to perhaps appreciate their meaning and see how they themselves fit integrally into our relationship.
My mom will sometimes pass along a report on the health and progress of our trees. Both are still alive but only one has produced fruit thus far - some years only a piddly apple or two, but others a bumper crop. I take comfort in knowing whose tree that obviously must be as I waddle into my seventh month of pregnancy.